Mothers are known for their sacrificial love for their family! A mother's identity is giving, they give, then give, and continue to give hardly ever thinking of themselves. I can see how weary it can be sometimes to be a mother, or even a woman in general so much is expected of them regarding the family. They often don't feel appreciated, instead used, and often abused. I have learned over the years to be much more aware of my wife's sacrifices and try to assist her so that we carry the responsibilities of our lives equally together.
If anyone can understand the crucified life it is a woman. When Jesus was being crucified only one of his male disciples stood by His side the rest of them were women. Men often run from self-sacrifice while women embrace it! Yet, in Christ, all of His disciples are called to lay down their life. Jesus went through with the cross because He knew it was the Father's will. Nobody likes to suffer but when suffering is necessary for our loved ones we gain the strength to endure.
Many people suffer unnecessarily because they take on burdens that they were never asked by God to carry! Women should not be used and abused just because they are women and it is expected of them. Women are called equally with men to take up the cross and follow Him. The cross of Christ brings redemption, it transforms hearts, changes the world. When God is in the suffering, Glory follows! When people share suffering together that is when a whole different level of intimacy is experienced.
Jesus could have commanded a legion of angels to rescue Him from suffering but it was the will of God for Him to suffer, die, and be resurrected for the salvation of mankind. Those who are intimate with the Lord discern what suffering in life is on the path of God and which is to take us off His path. That is why in John 19:11 when Pilate told Jesus that he has the power to release him from this suffering, Jesus said "you would have no power over me at all unless it were given to you from above."
What this means is that unlawful suffering such as with domestic violence is not to be tolerated. It is not the suffering of the Lord, it is evil, wrong, and we are to get free of it! Yes, Jesus did no wrong, and yet had to suffer! Yet, He was called to be the perfect sacrifice for the sins of mankind. What He did was done once and for all! The suffering we are now called to endure is the suffering of laying down our lives for the better good of those whom God has placed before us. Putting their needs above our own! It is spirit-led and not flesh driven, meaning it isn't out of obligation but out of love and obedience.
If we do not discern God's will in a situation then we will base everything on what seems to be right and wrong. The problem being is things often are not what they appear to be. The world is full of deception it is all over the airwaves! We may be fighting for a cause and yet aligned more with the enemy than we are the Lord simply because we are not walking in discernment. Jesus knew despite being innocent that He was to die for the sins of mankind, so He didn't try to defend Himself when He was mocked and lied about. In some situations the right response is silence, God is at work, and He will turn everything back on the enemy's head, so, we are to just face suffering trusting God that He knows what He is doing!
When we are not healed we look through the lens of our pain and are emotionally driven rather than spirit-led. We think we are on the side of what's right but actually on the side of dead wrong. Hurting people, hurt people, and often unintentionally. It is so important that we are allowing the Lord to cut and prune the garden of our hearts daily, or we may live a lie. We will be giving, giving, giving, and for all the wrong reasons.
The crucified life is not one of being used and abused by everyone about everything, it is a life of abandonment to the will of God. In this life it brings suffering at times, yet, when God is in it, He carries the cross just like Joseph did with Jesus, and uses all things for good! When you are intimate with someone you want to share in their suffering and thus it is for true lovers of God.